23 December 2009

The second key untaught skill

"Untaught"
  • I'm not saying that these 3 skills are never taught, because you can certainly take numerous courses in a variety of flavors for all 3
  • However these 3 skills have largely been left out of the current education system, to the serious detriment of far too many people
  • My point here is not to put down the education system, but to aid in the uptake of these critical skills for the thousands/millions of people that they don't come naturally too (and that's the majority)


The second key skill: To communicate

  • In addition to the first key skill of failing, the skill of communicating is equally important since as humans, all we do is communicate (verbal communication is everywhere and every day, but as if often pointed out, non-verbal communication is even more significant)
  • I've attended networking events, worked with business owners, managers, students, met random strangers (intentionally and not), interacted with family, colleagues, friends, volunteers, and many other people that we all come into contact with
  • Few can communicate comfortably
  • We can all speak, but there is a big difference with being truly comfortable with one's self and their own ability to communicate
  • Whether its a friendly conversation with a neighbor or someone responding to a question about their dream job, few people, 1. appear at ease, and 2. clearly define their ideas, stories, and thoughts
  • I'm sitting in a Starbucks right now in Vancouver and love to 'people watch' and am always amazed at how few people will make eye contact
  • The Starbucks is in Vancouver Canada, which sits nicely on the west coast of North America, a place where society doesn't generally condone (nor encourage) interacting with fellow strangers
  • Culture plays a part, a big part at times, into how people communicate with one another and how open and friendly they are (Compare waiting in line in a coffee shop in New York or Toronto with queuing up in a coffee shop in Madrid or Florence and where you'd likely get into an interesting conversation with a stranger)
  • But its no reason to simply conform to the societal norm, especially when its not a positive one


Back to school

  • Culture certainly plays a part and there are a lot of factors involved here, however if children/teenagers (when we all had far less inhibitions) are encouraged to communicate, converse, collaborate, and explore their ideas and passions in an open and constructive environment (this doesn't really exist yet, but it would be exciting to create/implement), they would be far less inhibited as adults and therefore more free to interact with fellow humans
  • Kids are often reprimanded for talking in class and conversing and sharing still play such a small part in the classroom (Bring on the field trips and group work and events)
  • Communication can happen in so many ways, and in so many new ways that haven't yet been developed
  • I'm currently working with Desire2Learn's ePortfolio tool which is a game-changer in the way it easily facilitates, promotes, and tracks sharing and feedback among various people; One of many effective ways to enhance communication, especially when technology is complemented by in-person interaction


World, different
  • There is too much competition, jealousy, and fighting going on in the world right now
  • A great deal of this can be overcome simply through better communication to reduce misunderstandings, false pretenses, and anger
  • We're all human after all and we're actually seeking things not so different from one another
  • I'm always somewhat amazed when arch enemies end up friends and their enemy status was based only on misunderstandings; What's even more amazing (and sad) is that so much time, often years, are wasted for no reason
  • I saw Invictus recently which had a number of great scenes on breaking down barriers, but one small part that I really liked (which probably won't get mentioned in any reviews) is just before the World Cup final between the South African Springboks and the New Zealand All Blacks; As they come onto the pitche, the All Blacks players look fierce and angry, however this demeanor is quickly disarmed and shifts to friendliness and grins when Nelson Mandela (with his big smile) shakes hands with each of them; Appearances serve a purpose, but they don't always convey the true person inside


Practically speaking
  • Make eye contact and hold it (It'll feel awkward at first) and then smile
  • I've talked about smiling before and its so under emphasized, under played, yet a powerful tool to enact positive change
  • I'm not going to go on here about smiling, but I challenge everyone to make it their daily mission to smile (nothing complicated) as much as possible; For those of you that need something specific and for those who would find this too difficult, make the effort to smile (big grin) at at least 3 people a day (morning, noon, and night); And do this for 21 days
  • Other than smiling, influence the education system by speaking to teachers, administrators, board members, and get them to bolster the communication that goes on in school (If you need ideas or specifics, talk to me and I'll help you come up with a specific plan for your contact)
  • Take a course or courses on communication; With better communication comes better confidence, something that most people can use more of; With it automatically comes better and more opportunities, success, and happiness

29 September 2009

The 3 key untaught skills

Under-represented
  • There are three key untaught skills in life
  • Successful people typically learn and excel at these skills, many early on in life
  • Its a pity that these key skills are not formally taught in schools (Some teachers do recognize the benefits and incorporate elements of them, but there isn't much in the way of formal training, and its short-sighted to not incorporate it)
  • It would be highly effective to get exposure at an earlier age so we can then fine-tune these skills throughout life
The first key skill: To fail
  • Numerous successful people claim that failing allowed them to get to the level of success that they ultimately achieved
  • From Abraham Lincoln to Richard Branson, there are examples from all walks of life
  • It is failure that builds character, tests resolve, and most of all, facilitates learning
  • Practice is key to success (as I tend to harp on)
  • The expression 'Practice makes perfect' is certainly true and is a catchy phrase, but doesn't acknowledge the often significant amount of practice that is actually required
  • (You must also have a passion for what you're doing in order to really excel and achieve success, however its measured)
  • Failing in today's world has quite a significant negative connotation which is very unfortunate
  • Kids should be encouraged in all areas of life to try new things; And not discouraged or reprimanded
  • There are too many opportunities to give up and be ok with it
  • I've met too many adults that are afraid to try new things, to pursue their dreams, and hold back in life which robs them from true freedom and joy
Your enemy
  • Time is not on your side
  • We inherently become more risk averse as we age
  • So there is an even greater importance to try, fail, and learn at an early age so we're not fearful of this process and it becomes part of who we are
  • The expression 'you can't teach a dog new tricks' isn't entirely correct, however it is certainly difficult to learn and excel as you get older
Practically speaking
  • Think back to a time when you were fearful of trying something new
  • But you either did it anyway (or had no choice), and then guffawed at your initial hesitation and were proud of your success (or at least the fact that you went ahead and did it)
  • Play that movie over and over in your head (savoring the goodness) and then decide to try something new - at work, in sport, with your friends/family
  • And don't give up if it doesn't go exactly right the first time, because it likely won't be perfect, and giving up slots you in with the mediocre group, and who wants that?


Stay tuned for the second and third key untaught skills that are coming soon...

21 March 2009

A carefully constructed identity

We are more naked than ever. We haven’t been this exposed since the time of the cavemen and their minimalist leather coverings. The Internet is of course changing the way the world works in so many ways. As a result, we are now presented with a huge opportunity to create a name for ourselves – our own unique brand that the world can see. This is optional of course, but not being proactive risks the chance that the world will brand you as they see you, not necessarily who you actually are.

The following is an excerpt from an interview on the topic of personal branding I had with Ingrid Hartmann from Elev8 You Personal Marketing in Vancouver.

David O’Hagan – Personal branding has definitely been gaining popularity recently, at least as a term. Branding has been around forever and up until recently has been largely left to the corporate realm.

Ingrid Hartmann – Yes, but that’s all changing now, largely due to the impact of the Internet and its mass of easily available information and specifically Web 2.0 social networking sites like Facebook and LinkedIn. In addition, with the rise of professional services and contracting paired with declining job security, professionals are realizing the importance of marketing their own niche while promoting the company they work for. Now we all have a brand whether we like it or not. So the question you need to ask yourself is, Do you like your brand?

DO – I love this idea! Different people do put different weight into how they are perceived (Paris Hilton vs the cave-dwelling mountain man in western Idaho), but everyone is essentially giving off a ‘frequency’ by their actions (or inactions).

IH – That’s true, there are both tangible and intangible ways we give off messages about who we are and what we stand for. A person’s business card is part of their brand, whether they are an employee or have their own company. Going to an event without a business card is giving off a signal about yourself, as well as presenting a professional business card with an email address like partyboy@hotmail.com.

DO – Agreed! I find it interesting how I still see people with these types of email addresses on their cards or on their web sites. I also find it interesting many people have never done a search on their own name. Even if you’re not famous and don’t have your own web site or blog, there is often a surprising amount of public information available on you, especially with sites like Zoom Info compiling information on us behind the scenes. Zoom Info had pulled information on me from a number of sites including my company site, my blog, a colleague’s site, and an alumni site. And I’m sure that this type of automated information gathering process will continue to expand and proliferate as more and more information is available online.

DO – You had mentioned something earlier that had intrigued me about the idea that personal branding allows you to align the perceptions of others with your own. It would make sense that although we see ourselves one way, others potentially can view us differently (not necessarily deliberately, but acting on what information they have received or experienced), which may be to our disadvantage. Can you elaborate on this?

IH – Sure. Regardless of your position, support or strategic, you already have a personal brand based on how others perceive you, whether by reputation or through experience. Your brand determines how your clients, colleagues, manager, team members, etc. interact with you. It may impact whether you get the next promotion, high profile project or desirable client. It is important to gather information on how others view us (if you have access to a 360˚ Survey – take advantage of it!). In doing so, we can ensure it aligns with our vision of our own brand and we can identify any gaps between how we want to be seen and how we actually are perceived. Personal branding is about a systematic way to build the brand qualities we want others to see in us so that the brands others put to us align with the brand identity we see for ourselves.

Look at yourself as a product and build up credibility and trust through the value that you provide (and how that value is distinct from others like colleagues, competitors, etc.) For example, if you want to be known as the “go-to guy” in your office, you need to ensure you’re making yourself approachable and accessible.

DO – I like this concept because I strongly believe that successful people and businesses are those that put significant effort into focusing on what makes them unique and then really differentiating themselves.

Everyone is in competition with others, regardless of whether they like it or not. (Even companies that develop a brand new technology that doesn’t exist yet, will soon have others trying to steal market share from them.) As a simple example, take a chiropractor that has recently been certified. He’s very excited about his new business and eager to help people. And what does he do, joins a clinic (or sets up his own) and markets himself the traditional way all the other chiropractors do (i.e. does some advertising, joins a networking group, etc). If he’s decent at chiropractic, he’ll do all right, but probably not highly successful unless he stops, assesses his himself and his practice, and makes a conscious decision to actively differentiate himself from his competition. As a simple example, If he had worked previously in the construction industry, he could target construction companies and be the chiropractor of choice, working half the week from a mobile chiro unit that visits construction sites. This is obviously desirable for the construction worker who doesn’t have to get cleaned up and travel to an office, while very time-saving since he (or she!) doesn’t have to extend his already long day by traveling to an office on the other side of the city.

So he’s now branding himself as the mobile chiropractor that can not only ‘talk-the-talk’ of the construction industry, but knows intimately the types of issues and injuries construction workers are dealing with due to his background in this industry.

OK Ingrid, you mentioned consistency and the fact that successful companies are ones that have a consistent perception by the public. Why is this key for individuals as well?

IH – Yes, just like successful corporate brands emphasize a consistent message and “look and feel”, an individual must also reinforce his or her personal brand. It is also important for a personal brand to be authentic and focused. In order to achieve this, the brand must truly reflect the individual’s values and aspirations. Most importantly, the individual needs to believe in their unique personal brand as a true reflection of himself or herself for it to be convincing to others.

DO – Good point. I go to a lot of networking events and am often astounded at how few people can present themselves or their businesses in an interesting way. Being the gentleman that I am (chuckles) I am polite and listen, but many people are selling themselves short by not assessing how they present themselves in that first introduction. Most people are going to these events to build their business or get more clients, but there are many lost opportunities due to the fact that they’re often not making a good first impression.

To me its not what you say and how well you can sell your business or products/services, but how interesting you are. Few people remember the details of the conversations they had (even the next day), but what they do remember are: 1. interesting jobs/companies (sky diving instructors or submarine mechanics), and/or 2. engaging personalities (the person made you laugh, made you think, told a great story, etc).

IH – When we are clear on who we are and where we’re going, we project this confidence and clarity to others. Therefore, it’s important to be ready to talk about your personal brand with whomever you happen to meet through chance encounters. By being conscious of your personal brand it ensures you’re ready to promote yourself when casual, unplanned opportunities come up. For example, use water cooler talk with an executive as a chance to talk about enjoying your leadership role in an important new project, rather than chit-chatting about the weather.

DO – I always like getting practical, so how do you recommend someone get going on creating their personal brand?

IH – I recommend starting out with a marketing plan. The plan should definitely include an elevator pitch, a 30 second statement that includes your key attributes and things that are unique about you. It should be memorable so you could include a quick story about yourself or a metaphor to describe what you do. Try something like “think of me as a firefighter since I spend my days putting out fires at my office”. Since boundaries are blurring between professional and personal lives, don’t be afraid to include a hobby or lifestyle description in your personal brand or elevator speech. Let colleagues know if you play in a band on weekends or coach your twin sons’ soccer team if they are important to you. Additionally, a vision statement and measurable goals are important to include in your marketing plan. Then, and this is important, you need to constantly reinforce the elements within the plan on a regular basis.

DO – That makes sense. Like so many things, you need to repeat it to ingrain it in your thinking so its second nature. This will take some work and some thinking initially, but once you get rolling your brand and the perception that others have of you will really begin to take shape and impact your efforts and levels of success.

Personal brands are not yet like CVs in the job search process. It’s a given that when applying for a job you will need to present your experience in a CV. Its not required that you have a strong personal brand when you apply for a job, or seek promotion, or start a business. You can still have a first-mover advantage of sorts. Knowing yourself well and having a clear picture of what you can offer is undoubtedly valuable and gives you an advantage over a colleague or competitor if they do not.

IH – You’re exactly right, David, when you say a personal brand isn’t required; in fact, most people don’t have one. Consequently, developing and maintaining your personal brand will definitely give you the edge over your competition. Also, many people don’t think about the messages they are giving off to the world about who they are and what they do. In today’s competitive environment, having a personal brand helps you to communicate who your are and what is unique about you so you are focused and thus can make more meaningful and memorable connections with potential employers or someone you met at a networking event.

DO – And I’m guessing that like any business strategy, your personal branding and marketing strategy should be reviewed on a regular basis to ensure it remains true to you.

IH – Definitely. I would recommend re-evaluating it on an annual basis. It can be an informal evaluation, but should reflect back on your marketing strategy to see if it is still inline with your values and vision. There often aren’t significant changes, but people and desires and goals evolve based on experience and therefore your personal marketing strategy should remain inline with your vision for your life.

DO – Great. Well thanks so much Ingrid for your time and the very interesting discussion. And if someone is interested in talking to you more about personal branding and marketing, what should they do?

IH – Have them check out our web site at www.elev8you.com or give me a call at 604.737.3646.

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29 January 2009

Experience = Positivity

Driving directions

  • Recall the last time you drove to a place you hadn’t been to before without using GPS
  • Even with driving directions in hand, you probably drove a little slower than normal
  • You probably re-checked your directions a few times while on route
  • And you may have thought for a moment that you should have already arrived at a certain street or passed a certain landmark by now
  • If you’ve since made a second trip to that destination, especially not too long after the first trip, you probably ditched the map, puffed out your chest, and drove on confidently at a greater speed
  • Why is that?
    • Well the obvious answer is that you’re now experienced in driving that particular route
  • Experience is simply gaining knowledge of something through participation or action
  • Experience brings confidence
  • What does confidence bring?
  • It often brings things like:
    • Motivation
    • Aspiration
    • Joy
    • A desire to serve
    • And many other things (all positive, by the way)

The simple equation

  • So if experience (whether it be successfully arriving at a destination, becoming an expert in your industry, traveling abroad, or stepping out of your comfort zone) will bring about positive feelings and desires within you, why not commit yourself to getting out and experiencing life more and living richly?

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22 January 2009

Purpose?

Good news

  • The Internet is great for many things and the vast access to news sources is to me one of the best (except if you’re in China)
  • And using an RSS reader makes it that much easier
  • I ended my subscription in December to a national newspaper print edition because I just wasn’t finding enough interesting articles (I also like the fact that I’m now a little more ‘green’)
  • Seth Godin has been pretty vocal about the upcoming disappearance of newspapers
  • One thing that web-based news provides that a paper-based newspaper will never be able to do is include real-time comments from readers
  • Its often these comments that I find quite interesting, often more interesting than the article itself (The more controversial the article, the more comments)

No comment

  • One thing though that has stood out for me lately is the at times large volume of negative comments
  • Check out most articles relating to the Vancouver Olympics (especially the Globe & Mail reporting on the financing issues related to the athlete’s village) to see what I’m talking about
  • OK so the Olympics can often be a fairly controversial topic for a variety of reasons, but even YouTube has a surprisingly large number of videos with numerous negative comments

Criticize vs contribute

  • So members of the traditional newspaper industry may have reason to not be so positive, but what about the rest of us?
  • I agree that the news we getting on the current state of the economy is not overly optimistic, but if you dig a little for it (move away from your traditional news providers, sir) there is quite a bit of positive energy and ideas flowing from organizations that accept the current situation and seek innovative ways and solutions to move forward
  • Here are a few random examples (all available via RSS):

The 2 step

  • So my question is, why so negative?
  • Negativity didn’t just rear its head again in September 08 when the economy really started to deteriorate
  • In coaching circles, the theme that usually comes up is ‘purpose’ (and lack of it)
  • It can be an airy-fairy concept for many, but I believe there is considerably more truth to it than many allow
  • If you step back and assess your own situation, you may get a glimpse of where you’re at
  • Ask yourself these 2 questions:
    • Why am I here?
    • What excites me about my daily life?
  • If you struggle here, you are likely lacking some clarity around your purpose, and how to live out your purpose
  • But don’t fret because you’re not without purpose, you just need to discover it (and then harness it)
  • And then you need to admire how nicely things will fall into place in your life (and those around you)

14 January 2009

The e-volution

Experience

  • Experience is generally good to have, and we are regularly gaining experience, whether we intend to or not
  • Even if you’re in the most mundane of assembly line jobs, each day you go into work you become a little better at what you do
  • But basic experience doesn’t usually lead to a rich life because in most cases you remain an employee on a salary with limited upside, without much opportunity to really question how things are done, or propose new ideas (I’m not against being an employee, but I have a hard time with the limited opportunity to be creative and challenge the status quo)

Expert

  • To live richly (whatever that means to you), expertise has got to be your goal
  • Its in this realm that you become sought out (to speak to groups or to consult to organizations) and have the opportunity to question the way things are done and enact new ideas and opportunities because you are deemed an expert
  • Unfortunately few organizations see the value in fully empowering their people for growth and development, but this isn’t to say that you cannot be an expert within your own company
  • Its here that you have the freedom to build credibility, a unique reputation, and then be rewarded accordingly

Excellence

  • Now granted not everyone is seeking recognition as the foremost expert in their field, but allow your (fertile) imagination to dream a moment and picture how excellent life could be if you were engaged, regularly contributing ideas, and an integral part of forward-thinking groups and organizations
  • Given the choice, most people would take the exciting and stimulating choice over the dull and boring one
  • Even if the money or the recognition or the travel aren’t important to you, isn’t the opportunity to be stimulated and influencing positive change even a little bit enticing?
  • For many people it is, but they’re reluctant to step up and put themselves on the line, so they resort to feigning contentment with life

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03 December 2008

Time to brush up

Secrets

  • We recently ran a workshop at the Cambridge Chamber of Commerce on motivating staff and teams
  • I was in the mood to give away secrets and said that ‘communication’ is the key to motivating staff
    • If you’re looking for that one thing (aren’t we all?!) that will make you stand out as an effective motivator, it all boils down to superior communication
  • The workshop was full of practical and easy-to-use tools for managers to help them boost motivation in their people
  • I’ll let you in on another secret: Even though all the practical and easy-to-use tools are in fact ‘practical’ and ‘easy-to-use’, the reason why there are so many unmotivated people within organizations today is not because motivation is hard or complicated, but because most managers don’t spend the time to build a good rapport with their people
  • So although time management may not appear to directly relate to motivating staff, it actually does (A manager that is less stressed and has the time to sit down and build relationships will inherently end up with nicely motivated and engaged staff
    • So that is how a section on time management found its way into our workshop
  • What was interesting is that in the participant feedback, there was a huge demand for more time management tools and ideas




For the love of time management

  • I love the topic of time management
  • Some of the reasons I love it:
    • Its fascinating how many people obliviously waste significant amounts of their time, especially while working
    • We are all stuck with the exact same 24 hours in a day and 60 minutes in an hour (and regardless of how much money or clout you have, you cannot buy any more)
    • Solutions to better time management are indeed easy-to-use and implement and don’t require much more than a bit of discipline and repetition
    • The lack of time (or perception of it) impacts virtually every person; Few people can say they have lots of time and are at peace




Creeps in everywhere

  • Here’s a recent quirky example of how our perception of time gets skewed
  • We recently became the proud owners of a Philips Sonicare toothbrush
  • Now the sonic cleaning action of the brush is great, however what I really love is the ‘Smartimer’ which counts down 2 minutes and alerts you every 30 seconds
    • Its not so much the timer itself that I really like, but the fact that the timer points out a significant misperception of time on my part
    • Let me elaborate:
      • I’ve been brushing my teeth unassisted for over 30 years and am pretty happy with my brushing skills and style (and a for-the-most-part filling-free mouth)
      • Now the timer has illuminated a serious flaw in my technique
        • Its now clear that I tended to flit about my mouth with the brush, spending far more time in some areas and perilously little time in other critical areas
      • So this secondary feature of the sonic toothbrush (the primary feature being its sonic cleaning speed of an incredible 31,000 brush strokes per minute; That’s over 500 strokes per second!) has demonstrated that even something that I would consider myself fairly experienced in (teeth brushing), I had been somewhat subpar in my abilities
    • So, much improvement and innovation comes from awareness
    • The average Joe (plumber or otherwise) goes through life unaware of many areas in their life that could be enhanced and improved upon, many with minimal effort
    • There is great opportunity in the assessment of how one manages one’s time




Simply better

  • At a number of time management workshops that I’ve facilitated, I’ve talked about ultra simple assessment tools, one being a ‘time log’ (A document where you simply record the tasks, actions, duties that you did over the course of a day
    • Its often quite amazing the reactions people have to how they spend their own time when reviewing what they’ve actually done (or not done) for a period of a few days
  • I’ve had people scowl at tools like this as being too simple, kindergarten in nature, and below them
  • But regularly, one of the biggest obstacles to better time management is not accurately knowing where your time is spent
    • Have you ever shut down your computer and walked out of the office after a particularly busy day and then wondered to yourself what you actually accomplished?
  • It’s usually the people that take the time to assess where their time goes that end up being more successful, because they’re the only ones armed with the knowledge of where change can be made (Ignorance is only bliss sometimes)




Practically speaking

  • The two step:
    • Time yourself doing day-to-day tasks to see where you spend/waste your time
    • Armed with the knowledge of where your time goes, adjust your behaviors to waste less time, be more productive, and do more of what you actually want to do
  • If you want to stop feeling like you’re under the gun with no time to breath, get in touch with me
    • I regularly work with individuals (in person or video conference) and groups (workshops and Lunch & Learns) on the effective implementation of many very practical and easy-to-use time management tools that will free you (and your organization) up to be more productive, focused, and definitely less frazzled

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