Two things (Here and now), one result (Peace)

Calm, assertive, and present

  • I’ve been watching the show ‘Dog Whisperer with Cesar Millan on the National Geographic channel and can’t get enough of it
  • Cesar has an amazing ability to help people deal with all kinds of disobedient, distrustful, and at times, out of control dogs
  • But what really appeals to me about the show is how much of his approach applies to human beings (Each show opens with Cesar stating that he “rehabilitates dogs and trains humans”)

 

    • Cesar is all about living in the now
      • Feeling sorry for an abused or injured dog does not actually help the dog in any way and in fact brings forth negative behavior and emotions in the dog
    • Cesar consistently talks about maintaining a ‘calm-assertive’ state
      • Dogs read and respond to the energy of both other dogs and humans
      • Virtually all dogs (from fierce Rottweilers to fierce Chihuahuas) will obey a person that takes on the calm-assertive and dominant ‘pack leader’ role


A current reality

  • Far too many people are not living in the now (worrying about the past that cannot be changed and stressing about many unknowns in the future)
  • Not enough people take on a leadership role in their own life to maximize their abilities and passions (Many accept jobs, make choices, and even get involved in relationships based on the direction/persuasion of others, without seeking whether or not the decisions line up with their passion, values, purpose)
  • The good news is that this can be remedied by living in the now and taking on a progressive leadership role
    • This results in significant positive changes in a person’s life as well as a broad change to society as a whole when a critical mass of proactive (rather than reactive) people start really living out their lives as they’re meant to

 

Practically speaking

  • Live in the now
    • Easier said than done, but very empowering once you become good at it
    • Stop allowing things from your past (e.g. let go from your job, a contract lost to a competitor, death of a family member, etc) to negatively impact your future going forward
      • I firmly believe that we experience everything in life, both positive and negative, for a reason; And were meant to learn from each incidence and then move on
    • In the same way dogs need consistent training and attention, so do we
    • A conscious and consistent focus on living in the present will certainly bring about positive changes
      • If you’re a ‘worrier’ and you’re 40 years old, unfortunately you cannot just flip an internal switch to go from a ‘worried’ to a ‘peaceful’ state of mind (since you’ve been honing this ‘negative’ skill for years now and it’s a well ingrained habit)
      • Try this simple exercise the next time you feel stressed or under pressure
        • Write out everything that’s on your mind, breaking it down into sections, pieces, or parts
        • Then take a look at the different pieces and assess 2 things:
          • How important it really is
          • The level of control you have over this issue (Many people often stress over things that are not even in their control)
        • Of course some issues that cause worry are in fact serious; However, further breaking a particular issue down into parts makes is considerably easier to manage and work through (and often takes away some of the burden weighing you down); Its amazing how just downloading thoughts from your head to paper can be very therapeutic
  • Become a pack leader
    • Many people complain about their situation, especially when it comes to their job
      • This not only creates a negative energy within a person and also those around them (colleagues and family/friends)
    • Have a read of the Fast Company article ‘Your Boss is a Monkey’

 

      • Its an interesting look at how reactions reinforce behaviors (whether its your boss or your pet pit bull)
    • Take control; It’s your life, so start living it and stop just letting days slip by without excitement or passion (I can help with this; Talk to me!)
  • Be enthusiastic
    • Model yourself after the dog; A being that doesn’t dwell on the past and embraces every day with fresh enthusiasm, no matter what has happened to it in its past (In the Dog Whisperer, Cesar works with some dogs that had been severely neglected and abused in their past, but his energy and enthusiasm brings out the natural resilience of the dogs to embrace their future)
    • Dale Carnegie called enthusiasm the little-known secret of success
      • Virtually everyone wants to be successful (in whatever way they define success, whether they admit it or not)
      • Going after everything in your life (professionally and personally) with an elevated level of enthusiasm won’t guarantee success, but it definitely enhances your chances
    • I love the challenge of helping ‘neutral’ people become enthusiastic people; It’s the most amazing transformation because they actually become a new person living in a new world… Living in a now world! (I’ve worked with people who have made radical career changes, started companies, and finally followed their passion for something they weren’t encouraged to do; Seeing a person stop (what they’re doing), commit (to change), and act (on a exciting and rewarding new life) is incredible)
  • Enhance your rapport
    • Regardless of what you do (whether you’re a CEO or a mountain-dwelling lumberjack in the midst of writing a book), the ability to create good rapport with people is critical to successful living
      • It helps make the sale, but it also makes life considerably more interesting (We can only enjoy our own company for so long…)
    • Check out the lifehack.com article ‘How to Improve Your Rapport Development’
      • A great article with easy-to-implement and straight forward tips on strengthening your rapport with people
      • Pay particular attention to the sixth point ‘Let them talk about themselves’
        • This is to me the key to good people skills; If you only do one thing in life, listen, and then see how interesting life gets!