At peace

Peace, mate

  • Virtually everyone responds (or has responded) to the question “How are you?” using the phrase “I’m busy” (or some derivation)
  • An alternate response to the question I once heard was: “I’m at peace”
    • It made me pause and always being up for trying new things I thought I’d give it a go; I found it to have quite an impact on both me and the person that asked the question
    • This little scenario was one of many things that came together to help me see the true power of the mind and its impact on our actions, emotions, and energy (or lack of it)
  • I’ve also now realized that few people are actually at peace in their lives
  • Next time you go out (to dinner, the supermarket, the bank, or the park) take note of how many people are smiling and how many seem happy and at peace versus how many are without smiles or even complaining
  • Smiling is a pretty good indication of a person’s level of general peacefulness (Smiling can of course be forced or faked, but it does have a way of being a relatively true measure of peacefulness, since the effort required to fake it or force it is significant (a good thing in itself!) and it is unsustainable over time for most people
  • How long has road rage been around for? (It likely didn’t exist with the horse and buggy; Both travel and life were moving slower then)
    • Even if cut off while driving, people who are at peace with themselves don’t curse, raise fingers, or begin to drive aggressively…
  • A while back I heard a great message from a pastor about living life at peace
    • He was telling us how he had been living a fast-paced life and how when driving he would approach intersections where the light was red
    • I instantly pictured myself in the same situation and thought ‘yes, you look for the lane with the least number of cars and the lane where drivers will likely pull away fastest (avoiding, of course, lanes with large trucks or elderly people)’
    • He then said, to my surprise, that he now looks for what he believes will be the slowest lane and moves right into it
    • I thought wow, now that’s an interesting twist; Here I was thinking I was being efficient in my approach, yet a potentially superior approach to this situation is doing the exact opposite…

 

Sage wisdom

  • I’ve been reading the book The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma
    • The subtitle of the book is ‘A spiritual fable about fulfilling your dreams and reaching your destiny’ so you might think its just another personal development book (with a catchy title) about living out your dreams
    • The book however has a great alternate perspective on this oft-covered topic with the story told as a conversation between two friends
    • I like Sharma and the book because they both have a practical and easy-to-use approach to leading a richer and more peaceful life
    • One of the principals in the book is ‘Opposition Thinking’
      • Its simply based on the idea that the mind can only hold one idea at a time, and as a result any person can quite easily develop a positive mindset in a short period of time
      • To give it some tangibility, he suggests that you view your mind as a giant slide projector, with every thought being a single slide; So whenever a negative thought comes up on the screen, you quickly replace it with a positive one
    • The book is filled with a number of great one-liners of wisdom like:
      • The quality of your thinking determines the quality of your life
      • If there is a lack in your life it is because there is a lack in your thoughts
  • As cheesy as it may sound, finding a true peace within yourself is key to truly living a rich life
  • And the great part is that with an open mind and some persistence, progress and success come quickly

 

Practically speaking

  • Meditate (Ask me if you don’t know how or have had limited success in the past)
  • Actively avoid negative thinking, scenarios, and people and proactively focus all you energy on envisioning an abundant future for yourself
    • Don’t get sucked into yours or someone else’s negativity; the power to reap positive rewards lies fully within you (which is a good thing!)
  • Not that you desire to be liked by all people, but being happy and enthusiastic is nearly always more appealing to others (family, friends, colleagues, etc)
    • Even though you may not love your current job, a positive attitude at work can go a very long way and may even get you favor with the boss, a promotion, or an invitation to join a cool new project
  • Don’t allow yourself to say that you’re busy and instead substitute “I’m at peace” and watch the effects on both you and the people you say it to